Premature ejaculation in men is a sexual disorder that should not be underestimated: many men seem to be concerned when it comes to their performance in bed. As a symbol of misplaced masculinity, it can be a nightmare for a man if ejaculation occurs too early, leading to embarrassment and insecurity. That being said, in most cases this is nothing to worry about, and it can happen from time to time without any need for concern. If it does become a chronic daily occurrence, it can be very problematic for a man. It can be linked to many different causes, and psychological, behavioural, biological, and genetic factors can all play a role. Having the inability to “hold back” and control ejaculation can lead to sexual anxiety. So what solutions are there?

How can we prevent persistent sexual disorder from spoiling our most tender moments of pleasure? The first thing you need to do is face the problem without any embarrassment, fear, or insecurity. This is a legitimate problem, but it does not make you any less of a man. It’s best to acknowledge that although there’s an issue, you do not need to face it with fear or shame. Premature ejaculation is a difficult problem to understand. It is the uncontrollable evacuation of sperm, which is, in fact, a natural reflex. So while the solution itself might seem difficult to obtain, in order to tackle it, you must find a way to control your impulses so that you can reach the maximum threshold of your sexual excitement and your erection. No one else can do it for you. It’s up to you gentlemen, and YESforLOV is here to accompany you on the road to pleasure.

Ejaculation is an essential mechanical phenomenon that brings the climax of a man's erection to a close. At the end of the race, it is the natural expulsion of the sperm! And while this sensation is wonderful and orgasmic beyond words, it can quickly feel like a nightmare if it occurs too quickly.

It is the prostate that is in control of your ejaculation and ejaculation is imminent when the tension becomes too strong! The sudden surge of excitement, adrenaline, and pleasure is the crucial point of no return for the man. It is an identical phenomenon that occurs in women just before orgasm, but unlike men, they don’t blame themselves when orgasm occurs too soon for their liking!

There are two distinct phases in ejaculation:

However, effective ejaculation and orgasm are two different phenomenon’s which have the common characteristic of occurring at the same time! Ejaculation is purely physical, whereas orgasm, which is not mechanical, remains under the influence of the psychological and emotional control of the human being. Even if the majority of ejaculations are accompanied by an enjoyment and sometimes by a well-deserved orgasm, there are times when a man will ejaculate without fully enjoying his pleasure! A simple stimulation of the penis or the prostate (dixit the prudential nerves which used to be called the shameful nerves) can trigger an automatic male ejaculation.

This is not what we want, but fortunately, there are ways to combat this phenomenon!

There are three main points to remember about premature ejaculation: 

-The first observation to be made is a bitter one for the man: an ejaculation that is far too rapid and occurs within a minute, to the great displeasure of both partners!

-The second observation to be made, and just as difficult to accept: the man's inability to control his ejaculation!

-The final observation to close the debate: a reality that is difficult to face and all the psychological repercussions that follow. Frustrated, the lovers quickly lose their beautiful complicity, and the defeated couple gradually lets the cracks in their happiness show.

In short, for the man who sometimes wants to be a love and sex warrior, it is not automatic! So, between penetration, which is probably a little hasty, it is up to you to find the right tempo and the right window of opportunity to determine and accept this famous intra-vaginal latency time, i.e. the time which separates penetration from ejaculation during sexual intercourse.

The rumour is that the duration of an average sexual intercourse lasts 5 minutes and 30 seconds for the most sensitive, according to a study conducted by ZAVA with 1000 men and this under the supervision of competent and particularly attentive doctors! The International Society of Sexual Medicine defines premature ejaculation as the time between penile intromission and ejaculation as less than one or two minutes, whereas most men think that less than 10 minutes is already a sign of premature ejaculation. And yes! Sexual performance is a subject that preoccupies men and is often related to a fake notion.

At the same time, women find that 7 minutes is ideal: under 7 minutes, ladies say it is not long enough! Beyond that they get bored. So gentlemen, no pressure, put down your stopwatch, let go and enjoy.

However, even if the medical definition is different from the vision of men, according to an Ifop survey, a third of men aged 18 to 69 have recently had to deal with ejaculation before penetration and 59% dealt with in during sexual intercourse. In total, 71% of sexually active French people admit to having problems with ejaculatory speed.

Sexologists seem to have a hard time determining this famous threshold of male pleasure. At what point does the ejaculation reflex become abnormal? Sexual excitement is both sensory and mental: it's not just the penis that's involved ... it's also the brain! It's where all the signals from our five senses end up, where all our thoughts and emotions are jostled during these great moments of pleasure in life.

In this storm of the senses, it is important to distinguish between so-called primary premature ejaculation, which occurs on a daily basis throughout a man's life, and so-called secondary premature ejaculation, which can occur at any age, either suddenly or progressively, when a man has perfect control over his ejaculation.

Premature ejaculation is much more a psychological than a physical phenomenon, but it must also include all neurobiological disorders, or even a genetic susceptibility of an origin that’s very difficult to identify. Premature ejaculation is not a disease, it is a sexual disorder that only becomes problematic if it becomes a source of embarrassment, discomfort, or distress for the person complaining or for his partner.

One of the most likely causes of these dysfunctions is the regular use of medication: antidepressants and antipsychotics do not go well with sex. They have a very negative effect on the natural phenomenon of ejaculation. So, gentlemen, not too much abuse if possible in this area of health! As for alcohol, let's talk about it and divide your intake in two if you feel concerned!

Other medical predispositions have a great influence on a dysfunction in the ejaculation phenomenon: prostate problems (chronic prostatitis), dysthyroid, or erectile dysfunction...

Let's not forget the possible hypersensitivity of the glans which can insidiously spoil the party! This is not its role, however, since it is normally supposed to act as a shock absorber!

Psychological problems, such as stress and anxiety, are obvious - as with other sex-related phenomena - the major obstacles that get in the way of a functioning arousal, erection, and ejaculation in men. Always in his mind, these obstacles for pleasure disturb what should be the most intimate, beautiful and exciting sexual relationship.

Mission impossible to control and restore "normal" ejaculation? Certainly not! The real and only issue is gaining good control when it comes to the rise of pleasure! So don't panic! We have a handful of good solutions that you can put in your toolbox

4. Change positions regularly and choose suitable sex positions!

Changing positions allows you to interrupt penetration and lower your arousal level for a while. On the other hand, some positions are also less stimulating than others, but are just as enjoyable to practice. Avoid sexual positions that promote rapid arousal, such as doggy style.

We've checked out the Kamasutra and we highly recommend the teaspoon position, the andromache position, the union of the goddess or the lotus, which require a gentle rhythm, without unnecessary tension or sudden acceleration. By testing these positions, you will gradually learn to control your pleasure in bed.

You can do this and your confidence will quickly return, rest assured, gentlemen!

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It's great to have complete control over your orgasms, isn't it? All of us men must learn, sooner or later, to control our sensations of pleasure and emotions, and to regulate them over time to better appreciate and prolong them. It's up to you, dear readers, to strengthen your control! The tactics for regaining the pleasures of sex are not numerous, but they do exist! It' s up to you to study all these beautiful paths that lead to the renewal of sex and love. When the time comes, it's up to each of you to leave your pride behind and use them.