It is through the mirror of others that we discover ourselves. Let us discover our lights but also our shadows. The space of the relationship, whatever it may be, is a powerful playground for our emotional patterns. And if any relationship is a playground, a romantic relationship is a stadium.

Our partner will always help us to reflect what’s inside of us, sometimes covering it up, and sometimes stinging. It's when it stings that it becomes interesting. When passion stops blinding us, we can discover true and authentic love, the one that requires a little work and a lot of communication, so that this love can be cultivated on a daily basis.

But when we don't understand each other, what can we do? When our vision of the relationship seems blurry and our partner seems to view the world differently than us, it becomes mission impossible to find commonality.

So, all it takes is a good optician to allow us to choose the right glasses to understand others, get to know ourselves, and bring this dose of tolerance to each person. If you are still following me through my little eye metaphor, the right optician for me is the art of astrology. And if you think that in this article, we will only deal with love compatibility between astrological signs, keep reading, you will be surprised!

Let's immediately defuse the burning question: should we choose our partner based on their astrological sign? Of course not! Preconceived ideas like “I'm not meant to be with a Scorpio” or “Aquarians and Capricorns don't mix” are not part of a good astrologer's vocabulary. Any person is likely to correspond to another, regardless of their zodiac sign, as long as the two lovers devote a little desire and energy to understanding each other, themselves, and the issues within their relationship.

So, if all couples can have a future together and choosing a partner based on the stars is of little relevance, why look at the astrological chart for a romantic relationship?

• Understanding the other: the glasses they use to view the world sometimes completely different from ours, but they can be much more accessible to us with this astrological method. If he needs more security, doesn't view commitment in the same way, or is also emotional, you may find an answer (and also a lot of tolerance) in the stars.

• The strengths and challenges of a relationship: in each relationship, there are certain elements that astrology can highlight, which allow us to take the relationship to another stage. But also, more difficult points, which we should be aware of and keep in the back of our minds in order to be able to work on them together.

• Directions for the future: it's not just about describing your relationship or your respective personalities when you study a relationship theme. Astrology is there to provide a concrete map in our lives and to offer us ideas, actions, and avenues of reflection so that the relationship finds its harmony.

I’m far from a Mrs. Irma who will tell you if a relationship will go to marriage or to failure, now you understand, this astro has a little more depth than that!

Traditionally, in astrology, we will still find signs likely to have needs or functioning that are closer to each other:

Fire signs: Aries, Leo, Sagittarius. These three signs have energy to spare and a great desire for action and accomplishment. They can find themselves on a common vision focused on the construction of projects and common passions.

Earth signs: Taurus, Virgo, Capricorn. Here, those born with earth signs may feel a need for stability and security as well as a common desire to find a certain serenity in the little things of everyday life.

Air signs: Gemini, Libra, Aquarius. With great communication skills, these signs will need to base their relationship on exchange and curiosity.

Water signs: Cancer, Scorpio, Pisces. Water sign understand each other through their great sensitivity and listening to their emotions as well as their intuitions.

Beyond this basic operation, this approach to love presents a significant flaw: we are not just a sign! Indeed, what we call an astrological (or zodiac) sign is in reality only a very small part of our astrological chart: our complete personal astrology map. To understand precisely the function, strengths, and the challenges that come with romantic relationships, a simple study of solar signs (astrological signs) will not be enough. The key is comparing the two lovers astrological charts in order to develop the relationship.

Couples are entitled to a special astrology technique to understand how they work: synastry.

This somewhat barbaric word describes a magnificent method of comparing two astral charts (our identity card for the stars). In the eye of the astrologer, the relationship is born from the two partners interlocking stars. Of course the solar signs are compared, but so is everything else on the astral chart: our personality traits (the planets), within our vision of the world (the signs), in each area of ​​life (the houses).

Clearly, three entities are taken into account here: the two partners and the relationship they form.

This sometimes-complex astrological language should not frighten you: a good astrologer will always know how to find the words, without watering down their transcription, so that the messages from heaven become clear.

Here, no relationship doomed to failure, there are couples who, like everyone else, have strengths, facilities, some flaws, common visions, and others that are very distant. And to fully understand how a romantic relationship works, a few astrological points should be highlighted:

• The Sun: the primordial essence of each partner and the path we are offered to follow. So take a look at each person's sun sign to get a first idea of ​​the relationship.
• The Moon: basic needs. Each partner in the relationship will have needs that may differ. The sign the moon was in at the time of their birth will be able to tell us each person's needs.
• Venus: the way of loving. Venus represents our ideal relationship and what we expect from it. A look at Venus in each of the charts is very enlightening on the way of loving, of wanting to be loved, and the values ​​of lovers.
• Mars: sexual energy. Mars is associated, in a relationship chart, with the way of considering sexuality as a couple. Is the sexual chemistry there?
• Mercury: Isn’t the basis of every relationship good communication? The planet Mercury tells us about each partner's way of communicating.
• The 7th House: the houses are areas of life, and the 7th house is related to the area of ​​relationships and couples. The links between these astrological elements in the two partners' charts will be very interesting!
• Overlapping planets: When looking at your relationship chart, pay attention to planets in a chart that overlap with those in your partner's chart. This celestial rapprochement has a lot to tell us...

This list is obviously not exhaustive, but already gives a good overview of the challenges of a relationship.

MAKE THE BIRTH CHART OF YOUR RELATIONSHIP

You may want to go further and look at these different points for your own relationship. If so, you can observe your relationship theme (or synastry) through sites like AstroTheme or Evozen .

Even though these sites allow us to observe relationship themes, they unfortunately remain very superficial in the description and analysis of the theme. Nothing beats humans and a good astrologer to transcribe the stars and all their subtleties. Choose one based on their ethics which will please you, the free will they will leave you, and the way they listen to you. Like a good gynecologist or a good partner, the good astrologer is cherished for a lifetime.